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The Mechanics of Sexism by Lyndzi Miller Average rating: 4.2

Posted: 4/15/2009
Category: Sub Niche
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Most women have had to deal with mechanics, and all women have had to deal with sexism. When the two forces are combined a whole mess of trouble ensues, or, at least, it should.

I had the misfortune of coming in contact with this mechanic-centric-sexism. Pulling up to the “lube-specialists,” they instructed me to drive into their business—me, the owner and driver of the vehicle—then they proceeded to ask my passenger, who happened to be male, what he wanted done to the car. He looked to me, a little surprised as well, then told the man I wanted an oil change. The mechanic, for the sake of anonymity let's call him Shibrian, told us to go sit in the waiting room and it would be just a moment. Ten minutes later he came into the small waiting room and asked my passenger to come with him into the garage. This is where Shibrian showed him under the hood of my car and told him what he should do to fix some (possibly fabricated) problem that was going on. My passenger then had to come back and relay this all to me because this was not, in fact, his car. A few minutes later Shibrian told us we were all set and could pay, then told my passenger the amount—which was ungodly for an oil change, FYI—at which point I got out my wallet and handed him the cash. He then had the audacity to turn around and hand my change to my passenger, of which I had to take out of his hand. The other mechanic in the garage then asked who to give the keys to and my passenger, thinking this entire situation was hilarious, asked if I wanted him to drive, to which I answered, very loudly, that I can operate my own vehicle, thank you very much.

Growing up my father knew about cars and always fixed anything I ever had problems with, or he had friends with connections, could always find that part, or belt, or filter that I needed, and I rarely worried about such things. Now living over a two hour drive away, I've had to deal with car troubles on my own. I was perfectly comfortable with this idea—I am a big girl after all, I can take care of myself— but never could I have imagined that someone would have ignored me outright just because I'm a woman. I have a few friends who, when I recounted this incident to, confessed that they never go to the mechanic and make their husbands get the oil changed every time. Car dealerships, I am told, are much, much worse, but that's a whole other article.

This led me to search out a female mechanic in Milwaukee. I have heard of such a unicorn-like rarity. My own sister said a woman replaced her windshield wiper once, and I was awestruck. I had to find out for myself if she existed. After a few, “Nope, no women here,” calls I finally found one named Michelle White who works at the Menomonee Falls Firestone Car Center. She knows just how special it is that she's in her field. “[Female mechanics are] very, very rare. I know personally about three, and I know a lot of mechanics,” White said.

White took automotive classes in high school to get the basics and liked it so she kept with it. She got a job offer right out of high school and has been doing that ever since. She knows sexism is out there in the mechanic industry, but says she hasn't dealt with it personally. She said people appreciate what she does for them, especially the women. “What I do personally is I'll talk to the [customer] to show them what I see because not everyone knows about cars, and I don't want them to think they're getting ripped off.”

What happened to me didn't have to happen and very well shouldn't have. I didn't do as I should have: demand that the mechanic talk to me and not my partner; inform the men of the shop that I was the owner of the vehicle and was very well capable of driving all by myself; I should have said that as the owner I should know what's what with my car; and I should have inquired why my bill was so high, but I didn't. Female readers should learn from my mistake and not take these injustices sitting down. Next time you get an oil change or your breaks checked, go by yourself, speak directly to the mechanic, ask questions, learn about that enigma that is the automobile, and maybe you can save yourself from the kind of scene I encountered. Also, if you are or know of any more female mechanics, or female-friendly mechanics, that deserve recognition leave a comment here for they're sure to get some loyal business.
 


A guy who has to be the go between says:
Forget the anonymity...which place is it that sucks?  I've had to speak to the mechanics at Jack Safro Toyota on behalf of my wife because they won't take her seriously with issues involving HER CAR.  
Friday, April 17, 2009 2:14 AM
Lyndzi says:
Well, I don't want to get in trouble, but it was on Port Washington Rd., near Bayshore Mall... and I'm pretty sure they had "lube specialists" in their name. :P If that helps.
Friday, April 17, 2009 4:18 PM
A fellow capable woman.... says:
I have had mechanics and car dealers treat me like an idiot because of my age or sex, it sucked. However I refused to buy their product and went somewhere else, making sure to tell people not to go to those places. It seems that in 2009 I shoudn't have to be treated differently because I have a vagina!
Saturday, April 18, 2009 7:29 PM
More into gadgets says:
Same goes for computer stores! Bring your boyfriend/husband/partner with you, and they ignore you throughout. Even if he turns to you to "translate" all the questions that the guy behind the counter insists on asking him about the computer you want to buy.
Sunday, April 19, 2009 7:47 PM
Mike says:
Don't ever take that kind of crap from mechanics, computer sales folks, real estate sales folks, etc. They start in with it, just turn to your companion and say loudly "C'mon... we're going somewhere that takes their female customers seriously." then turn and head to the door.
Thursday, April 23, 2009 8:39 AM
Jeremy says:
I am laughing reading this article, not at you for being miss treated, but at these businesses for being ignorant. I work on cars and computers both and when I talk to a mechanic or computer tech they treat me like an idiot, which is funny because I generally know more than them anyway and just like second opinions sometimes. I agree with everyone else who said dont take that crap. Customer service has gone out the window and for them to disrespect customers and especially women is why I dont patronize most businesses anymore. LOL if you want an oil change I'll do it and give you a beer, hell I dont care, you should feel respected and if there is something wrong with your car the mechanic should explain it in detail and how it can happen, even if you dont understand cars. It's just good karma.
Thursday, April 30, 2009 5:35 AM
Joreth says:
This happens to me all the time.  I usually go by myself and make a fuss when someone doesn't deal directly with me when there is a male, but I once I did use a guy to simplify things for me.

Story 1: My tire blew out only a few miles from my then-boyfriend's house and it was a town I didn't live in.  I changed the tire to the little doughnut and drove back, to ask him where the nearest tire shop was.  He had already left, but his brother, a man with a deep voice and a souther accent, opened the phone book and found the nearest shop.  I didn't have a cell phone at the time, so he called from his home phone to make sure they had my tire in stock.  A few weeks prior, I had blown out another tire, and the guy tried to sell me special fancy tires, new brake pads, and a bunch of other things.  This time, though, when I went in, the shop guy didn't speak to me at all, but took my keys, put on the new tire, handed me back the keys, and charged me exactly what he quoted the guy who called.  So now, sometimes, I have a guy make the arrangements just to avoid the hassle.

Story 2: I'm an audio-video technician by trade, but my current boyfriend is not technically inclined AT ALL.  He usually takes me to the store to upgrade his computer, or buy a new TV or replace his sound system, etc.  Every single time, the sales guys talk directly to him and he always turns to me for translation.  He doesn't understand and I have to stand there and say "that's bullshit, you don't need that much" and "this piece right here works just fine with your existing system" and "you can't get that one because you'll then need $100 dollars worth of cable adapters".  He even outright tells them "she's the a/v expert, not me" and they'll politely look in my direction, but they refuse to talk *to* me.

"Joreth"
http://joreth.livejournal.com
Monday, June 22, 2009 9:42 AM
Mitzi Hutcherson says:
Give'em hell Lyndz! An equally exploited demographic - ageism:
My friend in Florida is 82 yrs. old (and female). She knew she had a pinhole in her radiator hose. What did those glorious "peppy kids" do? On her cross country trip to Arizona, she stopped in their shop and wanted a new hose. After making her wait for two hours, the mechanic came in with a whole list, beginning with a new water pump. Good for this tough old gal, she backed him into a corner chewing his ear off for trying to take advantage of her and drove off with a new hose only! She is the most awesome woman and I want to be her when I grow up!
Friday, July 17, 2009 9:24 PM
dottie says:
wow,,you need to go to the right mechanics. where they take you seriously ,,I go to Gerards in so milw,no sexism crap there at all
Sunday, July 19, 2009 11:07 AM
Chuck says:
You don't know how much that ticks me off. I know it happens all the time, and it makes it harder for honest Technicians like myself to run a business. It just isn't right. Don't take that crap from any business.
Sunday, August 16, 2009 1:43 PM
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